The ability to bounce back from adversity is an important quality to possess. The term for this quality is resilience. So what is resilience? Resilience is demonstrated by using skills and strengths to deal with and recover from problems and challenges. These problems and challenges can be wide range of things—job loss, financial issues, illness, natural disasters, death, ended relationships, and in our case—could be failure of an exam or not matching into residency.
Resilient people won’t fall into despair or hide from their problems with unhealthy coping strategies; instead, they will face their fears, challenges, and problems. That’s not to say they won’t experience the emotional distress and anxiety that comes with these challenges or problems. It’s just that resilient people find a way to handle their situation at hand in a way that fosters strength, growth, and even prosperity.
People who don’t exhibit resiliency tend to become incredibly overwhelmed by challenges and problems in a way that is unhealthy. They tend to dwell and cope in a manner that is destructive and/or even dangerous—a side effect of disappointment or failure. These individuals are slower to recover from setbacks and may experience more psychological distress as a result.
I’ll be the first to tell you that developing resiliency is hard. It’s not easy by any means to face challenges or failures. I also want to make clear that resiliency doesn’t mean eliminating all stress or erasing challenges that are hard and painful. I just mean that having this characteristic allows for a more positive and optimistic mental outlook to work through the situation and recover. Resilience gives one the strength to tackle challenges head on, overcome adversity, and move forward.
If you’re looking to develop resiliency, check out the blog post on Building Resiliency.