How can people relate to what you are going through? Some people know exactly how you feel, some wish they knew, and others are glad they are not you. Your relationships with others, while in the field of medicine, vary from person to person, through time and through you. Start with a pre-medical student, they look up to you. Whether you are a doctor or a medical student. Fantasies of medical school still swirl in their heads. Your struggles mean little to them because they have their own struggles. They can view you from afar as you stand on top of a pedestal. You didn’t asked to be placed there, but that is where you are. You must set an example for the future of medicine and healthcare.
Next are your colleagues. Your colleagues know your pain and your triumph. They are with you day in and day out. My medical student classmates are right next to me through each exam and every subsequent after-party. My resident and doctor colleagues, in the future, will confirm my specialty choice. I want them to be people I love to work with and lift me up when times are dark. Looking at the people speaks volumes about how you will fare if this was your chosen specialty.
Throughout your career in medicine, there will be superiors. Superiors could be mentors, bosses, evaluators and teachers all at once. They used to be in your shoes. They took on their obstacles and made it through, or else they would not be here today. Your struggles used to be their struggles, they know you have what it takes to make it through, which is why they chose to be your mentor. Use their inspiration and their knowledge.
Lastly, there is your mate. This person could be in the field of medicine or something completely different. Being in medicine will allow them to understand your struggle when you are on call or overly stressed. Their intellect comes in the same flavor as yours. Discussing new forms of diagnosis and treatment will provide stimulating debate. Someone not in medicine could act as your escape when you get home. You leave work at the hospital and at home every other subject, aside from medicine, is still on the table. This could be true with someone in medicine too. It takes relationships to make it in this field. Not in the sense that knowing people gets you ahead. But, knowing people helps you keep your head.